None of Your Business

When you’ve had enough of people asking about your family planning.

 

Warning: There may be emotional triggers, related to fertility and loss

Well Meaning Questions

You don’t have a baby!

How can that be?

Surely you want one,

you’re a woman, you see.

 

You can give birth

and therefore you should.

You’ll feel incomplete,

without motherhood.

 

What’s that you say?

There’s reasons you can’t?

I was only asking –

there’s no need to rant!

 

Response

 You seem perplexed

at my reluctance to chat,

about personal issues,

fertility and that.

 

Because I’m a woman,

my fate is decided.

I must be a mother

If not, I’m misguided.

 

You people don’t think,

of the reasons behind

the absence of children;

but bear this in mind:

 

Some woman don’t want

a child in the nest.

They’re happy without one

and their decision is best.

Others have tried

again and again.

But a baby ain’t coming –

they’re feeling the strain.

Some have babies

who never were born.

Their heartache is deep

and they’re trying to mourn.

 

It’s not only the childless

constantly bombarded

with well-meaning comments;

no wonder we’re guarded:

 

“He’ll be spoilt and lonely,

If he’s not a big brother.

It’s not fair on him,

If you don’t have another.”

 

“You’ve got 3 the same gender,

that’s such a shame!

You’ll be hoping the next one

isn’t the same.”

 

“4 children you have!

They’re a handful  I see.

It’s clearly obvious

you never watched much tv!

 

So forgive us all

if we’re not always forthcoming.

There are many prejudices

we’re still overcoming.

This is a poem I wrote  a few months ago, but thought it was worth a re-post on Mother’s Day. I’m thinking of a special friend who has yet again been for a scan and found there was no heartbeat or growth from her baby. She is desperate to be a mother but it’s been a long and difficult struggle so far.

So many people are missing their mothers, or miss being a mother to someone and today we should give a thought to those people as well as the happy mums out there.

None of Your Business

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When you’ve had enough of people asking about your family planning!

 

Warning: There may be emotional triggers, related to fertility and loss

Well Meaning Questions

You don’t have a baby!

How can that be?

Surely you want one,

you’re a woman, you see.

 

You can give birth

and therefore you should.

You’ll feel incomplete,

without motherhood.

 

What’s that you say?

There’s reasons you can’t?

I was only asking –

there’s no need to rant!

 

Response

 You seem perplexed

at my reluctance to chat,

about personal issues,

fertility and that.

 

Because I’m a woman,

my fate is decided.

I must be a mother

If not, I’m misguided.

 

You people don’t think,

of the reasons behind

the absence of children;

but bear this in mind:

 

Some woman don’t want

a child in the nest.

They’re happy without one

and their decision is best.

Others have tried

again and again.

But a baby ain’t coming –

they’re feeling the strain.

Some have babies

who never were born.

Their heartache is deep

and they’re trying to mourn.

 

It’s not only the childless

constantly bombarded

with well-meaning comments;

no wonder we’re guarded:

 

“He’ll be spoilt and lonely,

If he’s not a big brother.

It’s not fair on him,

If you don’t have another.”

 

“You’ve got 3 the same gender,

that’s such a shame!

You’ll be hoping the next one

isn’t the same.”

 

“4 children you have!

They’re a handful  I see.

It’s clearly obvious

you never watched much tv!

 

So forgive us all

if we’re not always forthcoming.

There are many prejudices

we’re still overcoming.

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If I Could, I Would

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If I could, I would get us tickets for a trip to the moon;

where we’d walk around for a minute

and decide it wasn’t ‘all that’

before coming home for movie night –

which we would agree was better.

 

If I could, I would charter a boat and leave with you tomorrow,

to sail around the ocean.

We’d stop by quiet palm tree beaches,

and swim in the clear sea

with only the dolphins for company.

We’d eat limitless self-service ice-cream with all the toppings we could dream of;

and drift day and night through the changing seasons

feeling the exhilarating wind and rain bounce off our faces.

Finally high fiving when our teamwork brought us to calmer waters.

 

If I could, I would put you on my back and we’d take off into the skies.

We’d migrate with butterflies to warmer climates;

where we’d be in awe of the volcanoes and creatures you only see in National Geographic.

 

If I could I would swing by Disney land and take you on that Dumbo Ride that you were afraid of;

And you’d squeal with delight when you made us go higher, and agree it wasn’t scary after all.

 

If I could, I would take you to school that first time, with a lump in my throat;

because I’d be proud of you but sad you were growing away from me some more.

 

If I could, I would watch you running out of school,

with your shirt tails hanging out and a big smile on your crumb covered face.

I’d pat your hair and ask how it went

and you’d say it was good, you might go back tomorrow.

 

If I could, I would let you have all the bubbles in the bath, and then switch the Jacuzzi on one more time and listen to you laugh and scream at the bubble mountain around you.

 

If I could, I would dress you in the soft tartan jammies, the ones you got for Christmas.

I’d smell your hair as I tucked you in to bed,

and stroke and kiss your soft cheeks

inhaling your sweet smell

telling you tomorrow would be even better

 

If I could, I would

 

In response to the daily prompt ‘moon

 

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