Princess Perfect and special too.
Nothing ordinary about you.
As you grow older you’ll soon find –
you can do anything with that mind.
You’ll be a straight A girl – in demand.
It’ll all turn out as you planned.
Years later and you’re feeling beat.
You tripped over that world at your feet.
Your looks faded, job’s run of the mill.
Now with child, but were on the pill.
Don’t despair, you’re a speciality.
Even thought you see mediocracy.
We’ve all got something that makes us stand out.
So love who you are, discard that doubt.
I give my son warmth, love and affection but one thing I’m eager to tell him is that although I think he is the best, kindest, cleverest (insert compliment here) boy in the world; Jo next door thinks little Jo is the best too. In fact, many parents and grandparents think their children are the best. I’ve said it so much that now when I do tell him he’s the loveliest boy in the town he’ll respond “I know you think I am but all the boys are girls are special to their mums.”
We’re constantly told to praise children to develop their self-esteem and I do praise my child and the others in my care. It’s important to encourage and build confidence. There is a fine balance though. Do we want to raise a child who knows they are loved in order to develop a high self-esteem, or do we want a child who thinks they are better than everyone else at everything? The Guardian wrote an interesting article about this, pointing out that over praising may encourage narcissism. I also believe that when a child does not end up being the best at everything, they may feel like a failure in life. This could result in depression and mental health issues. It’s confusing raising children, but I for one am glad my son doesn’t think he is a little prince.