A Letter to The Younger Me

Dear youthful me,

I know you don’t tend to listen to advice from anyone and you know better; but perhaps you’ll take it from me, your older self:

Talk to everyone who is important in your life. Really talk to them. Ask the big questions because life is fleeting.  Before you know it they’re gone and you’ll miss the chance to find out about the stuff that matters.                                                                                                           

Phone your mum on that first night you move from home. She’ll be hurt you didn’t call her to let her know you were there and happy.

Travel to many places and continents and never lose your curiosity about the world around you. Pick places on the map, book the flights (even if you’re skint) and go. You’ll save because you make it a priority. Those are what memories are made of.

Your mum will be the best friend you ever have.

Keep in touch with your friends, even when you move away. Have friends in different groups with varied interests. Make an effort with them. You’ll never be stuck for company or new experiences with lots of friends.

Take a year out to travel or volunteer and think about what you want to do with life – there is no rush to find a sensible career.   

It doesn’t matter if you fail at first, remember to always try your best and don’t give up when the going gets tough. Channel your inner Richard Branson!

Sometimes hurtful comments, even if they’re true and deserved, really are best unsaid.        

When you’re 17, don’t pretend to sleep when your friends’ uncle crawls into your bed. She does get him out, but you should talk to your friend and her family afterwards – don’t pretend it didn’t happen.  You’ll always wonder who else wasn’t so lucky to get help.  

Those boys who never phone you when they should – tell them to take a hike. The ones who want you will make the effort.

If you’re stuck or don’t know – always ask.  

He won’t turn up at Central Station a month after your break-up –  so don’t go.

Take time to heal then move on after a break-up. It will feel like the end of the world. You’ll have to deal with other losses over the years and this is training for other departures in life.  They don’t want you and you’ll meet the right person when you’re not looking.

When someone shows you something at work write it down so you don’t forget.

You have a gift of the gab. That gift will bring many rewarding conversations and experiences your way. Don’t lose it.                                                                                                                      

Stop drinking so much.  You’ll have blanks and forget what happened the night before or even how you got home. Through drinking you’ll put yourself in MANY dangerous positions.

Keep a diary. I know your mum read it and discovered you skipped school, but find a way to make it work. You’ll regret not having those precious memories written down.

Those drugs you’re taking are dangerous (to be honest you know that anyway).

Keep on reading. You can never be lonely or bored when you have a book. 

You are better looking than you think you are. Enjoy it and have more confidence. There’s a chance you’ll never look as good again! I can vouch for that.       

*This is controversial. Those wolf whistles are awful and sexist.  Walk tall, walk on and ignore. One day those bears won’t give you a second glance. You’ll feel kinda strange about that too.          

You think you’re fat. Ok, you’re not thin but normal sized is good. Embrace your normal size. In the future you’ll want the normal when you’re struggling to maintain it.

Don’t trust Jennifer who wants you to stay at her flat in Glasgow. She’ll have a fling with your boyfriend when you’re in Turkey.                                                                                            

Your friends say you’re ‘too nice’. Don’t listen. As an adult you can hold your head high and genuinely speak to anyone in the past without regrets.    

Take a Mindfulness Productivity course when you’re 20. Then you might not spend the next 20 years feeling guilty because you procrastinate over everything.

Keep appreciating the small things in life. They might seem like small things but they’re often the things that make you happiest.

Don’t assume you’ll get pregnant at the drop of a hat. You won’t, but it will happen.

When you have the money, overpay your mortgage. You’ll save loads in interest.       

Keep loving the music. Go to as many concerts as you can. Again, those memories make your middle aged self happy.  You’ll still be going then too but not as much.                    

Don’t go in the van when the strange man stops and offers you a lift when you’re drunk. You’re an 18 year old girl alone in the city – phone your mum!

You’ll never be a good housewife, but you’re ok with that. It’ll cause arguments in your marriage. You’ll get through it and compromise.   

Do what you love. You love writing, you love children – there’s no money in either but it’s what you should aim for in your career. You’ll be doing both 20 years later after 2 other careers and  unrelated degrees.                                                                                                                

Stop being so self-conscious. It’s more fun when you don’t care what others think.

If you have to pick between a thing or an experience – go for the experience every time. Those are what make you smile in later years.

You’re spending all your money on clothes, make-up, nights out and holidays. Good for you! Do it for as long as you can.

Not always the most sensible, sometimes you even break the law and put your life in danger.  You’re a curious girl and luckily haven’t been damaged by it. That aside, you are young and embrace life. You’re a free spirit, unpredictable and live life on a whim.  The danger aside, I want to tell you that I’m proud of you. Believe me, it all gets very sensible when you have adult commitments in a few years. You’ll never stop changing and learning as you go – and that’s what it’s all about.

Yours faithfully,


Your middle aged self. xxxx



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46 thoughts on “A Letter to The Younger Me

  1. Loved loved loved reading it!! I agree you never stop learning and never stop growing. And it’s for the best we are oblivious to some things as youngsters. If we knew all, we’d neither have the wisdom from making mistakes today nor would we the fun memories to hold onto! Amazing post 🙂

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  2. Your younger self and my younger self happen to meet by chance at an ice cream shop in Los Angeles (though my older self loves traveling, my younger self didn’t leave California, so this would’ve been the only way we meet!).

    “So…you actually read even though it wasn’t assigned?” I’d say.

    “You don’t read unless you’re told to?” you’d say.

    (Though my older self would rather read a book than watch TV, my younger self had no attention span for it.)

    We’d laugh a lot, though, since we both enjoy conversation.

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  3. There were so many things in this I need to tell my younger self too. Although I have to admit there are a lot of similarities between our younger selves and we both seem abit rebellious!!

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  4. Not at all indulgent – quite lovely, actually. I’m beginning to think these life moments are like those cairn markers. Yes, I guess we are stacking the stones once we arrive, but when we look back, what a path we get to gaze upon. 🙂 I enjoy the idea of writing and sending a letter to my younger self. If I had a time machine, I would probably go back (twice, in fact) to have a good talking to younger me. 🙂 So glad you shared your letter.

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  5. Loved this blog. Reminds me of a little book I bought for my sister at Christmas from Amazon: Letters for my future self. It has different themes for similar letters. You might want to take a look. How you have thrown in hints of the more specific events that have obviously had a profound effect on you makes this powerful reading.

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  7. Reblogged this on and commented:

    It’s now day eight of the Blogging University Course. The task today was to write a letter to someone or something. I sat for a long time trying to decide who to write to and became overwhelmed by ideas. So many to choose from, that I felt stranded by choice and couldn’t move on and do it! I’ve therefore decided to reblog a previous letter I wrote to myself. Apologies to those who have already seen it.


  8. Wow you made me laugh out loud with ‘Don’t trust Jennifer’ yet the Uncle tale is quite terrifying, God that man MUST be reported! And I agree there’s no question a girl should keep a diary. 🙂 I enjoyed reading.


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