I’ve Been Blogging for a Month!

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I’ve been blogging for a month, and what a month it’s been!  Here is what I’ve learned over this past month of blogging:

  • I struggled in setting up my WordPress Blog. It’s probably easy for most people, but I’m technically challenged. I had more difficulty in making categories than I did in passing my degree. One category is written 3 times and I’m not sure my posts are being filed properly even yet? Widgets seemed good in theory, to add useful stuff to my pages’ right margin. I now have big circles above this stuff in the right margin, with no idea how to get rid of them. I’m accepting that in order to have handy tools like ‘Recent Posts’ I need widgets and those come with big circles. It’s like accepting that if I want my lovely husband, I need to accept he’s always going to snore. An annoyance, but part of the deal.
  • I’ve often doubted my decision to be anonymous blogger, but feel I wouldn’t be so honest in my writing if I were writing under my own name. My post ‘The Complicated Business of New Blogger Identity’ highlights the challenges I faced in setting the whole thing up in the first place.  Nobody in real life knows I have a blog (that’s why I’m delighted I have any followers)! When I’ve been proud of something I’ve written, it’s been difficult to hold back and not put it on my personal Facebook page.  I’m learning as I type this that I can’t take a new paragraph without a new number appearing. What was I saying about being technically challenged?  Ok, the whole thing is messed up and I’m going with dots instead!
  • My blog Facebook Page has ZERO followers. The blog Twitter page has 44 followers, but I’m sure they don’t love me really. They want me to follow them back. It’s hard work being an anonymous blogger. There’s a webpage called Klout that monitors your social networking popularity. If it’s high that means you appeal to lots of people. A bit like the popular kid in school. I have a grade of 10 out of a possible 1000 – and I think the 10 is them just being polite. I’m the kid that nobody wants to hang out with. Would I be more popular under my own name? I’ll never know!
  • It’s difficult keeping secrets from my husband.  He’s been wondering why I go to bed late. Secret blogging hasn’t been great for my love life. I’ve finally told him I’m writing, but he thinks it’s an online writing group. Come to think of it, he never asked. I’ve not technically lied to him then, have I?  Bedtimes are earlier now 😉
  • I love checking my readership statistics. Here they are for the month:

24 posts

546 visitors

1,205 views

80 followers!

Thank you for reading and following. This gives me a boost and happy feelings!

  • I’ve not ‘found myself’ in the Blogger world. Who am I? I was supposed to write about my life as a childcare professional as I have a plan and lots of subjects to write about. I have written some good child related articles – outdoor activities and things I wish I’d known before being a mum. I even wrote a funny poem from a toddlers’ perspective here. I also planned on writing about job hunting and career issues as I have a background in Business and HR.  However, the majority of what I’ve written is poetry. Real poets out there will think they’re bad poems. You see, having no experience of writing poetry I’ve been blagging it. Some are rhyming, some spin off on their own accord as if to take on a life of their own, others I like the sound of the words together. I have absolutely no idea what Haiku is either. I tried to understand, but I don’t get it. I’m loving writing though, and that’s the important thing. Perhaps I’ll find my niche one day.
  •  It’s great meeting other bloggers. I had no idea the blogging community was so closely knitted together. We read others’ posts, encourage and support one another. It’s a beautiful thing. I’ll spend hours reading the posts of others, and often reading posts I would never have clicked on a month ago. There are bloggers from all over the world – I’m in Scotland by the way. Some are teenagers and I’m learning about what makes them tick, others are retired; some love poetry, others travel the globe. I’ve learned about rare and/or terminal illnesses; gay parenting; crafters; how to cook a beef stew… The choices are endless; every subject is on WordPress. Most of all, I’m communicating and learning from other bloggers. Learning to be a more empathetic person, learning to improve my writing -every day is a school day in the Blogosphere.
  • I still don’t understand the Blogging Etiquette. If I’m followed, is it always expected that I follow back? Apologies if I haven’t, but I often do read posts from likers and visit them occasionally, even if I’m not following. If you get a ‘like’ should you always read their recent posts? I try to do this but sometimes don’t manage. Again, I’m sorry about that.
  • My writing can appear quite morbid. Some of my poems are about death and dying as I’ve dealt with this a fair bit in recent years. I hope you see that they are uplifting despite the subject. I find writing this stuff, helps me process it.
  • I’ve learned that sometimes my post title is so good, I get a ‘like’ without even having a visit to the page. I must be good! 😉
  • Finally, I can say that I’m loving blogging because I’m loving writing. For the first time in my life I’m prioritising writing and it’s paying off. I’m drinking less which is a major improvement. I know there is a glass of wine in the photo, but I’m doing better at cutting back.  This poem Beautiful Friend, is partly based on my own experience. I’m watching less tv and I’ve cut way down on my Facebook time.  I’m much happier being a Blogger!

 

I need to work  on my formatting though.

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83 thoughts on “I’ve Been Blogging for a Month!

  1. You are doing great! I had no idea you have only been blogging for a month – your posts are so varied and enjoyable to read. And look at those followers! The numbers speak for themselves 🙂 Keep up the great work!

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      • Thank you! I started writing about autism and found the posts took awhile, had a limited audience and could offend someone if I worded something incorrectly since I am writing from an autism parents perspective, and not from experiencing autism myself. So, I started writing about my love for running – and those posts just flew out. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t narrowed my focus so much – I really enjoy your variability! Keep up the great work!

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      • I think it’s a really important blog who have. People who know nothing of autism, can gain a greater understanding of your experience; whilst realising everyone with autism is different (just as we all are).

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  2. Hi, first I would like to say that your blog looks good.
    About the circles, they do stuff haha. When we click on them, links to the different parts of your blog (by category). You must have added some widget – I am sorry I don’t know which. I hope someone more knowledgeable reads you and have good tips to help you.
    When you say when you enter a paragraph it adds a number/bullet, you need to select that on your text editor while writing the post: if you look at the tool bar you say the bullet points and numbers side by side – if you click once you select it, if you click a second time you unselected it.
    To have more followers on social: Facebook and Twitter you need to post things that can be relevant to your audience – not only calls for your posts.
    I always check people’s blogs if they liked me or follow me. I follow back when the blog is of my interest.
    Hehe I love when you say that sometimes your titles are so good, people like the post even without visiting it.
    Keep writing. It’s nice to read you. And well done on your first month!

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    • Thanks so much for you tips on formatting and page layout. I will take a look at that stuff (and try to understand). The relevance to audience I think is difficult when I’m writing the poetry, as I feel it’s not ‘useful’ to the reader. That said, the Wildlife Trust did tweet one of my kiddy posts. That was a proud moment 🙂

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      • aww – you need to know who is your audience – your blog’s audience. Is it focused on poetry only? Parenting? Lifestyle? Then you post about those themes. Can be a poetry convention, or about a new Poetry book you found, or tips for parents, or a new place for parents to visit with kids : ) stuff like that.

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      • One more thing. When you choose categories for your posts, untick the “uncategorized”, otherwise it shows with the category you chose & uncategorized as well. You can edit the posts you already published, untick that category (uncategorized) and hit update – this options are all on your left handside.

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  3. Just do whatever moves you. You’re creating. You can work on the serious stuff in Word or whatever and post it when you’re ready. I’ve been doing this for nearly three months. I planned on writing about the interaction of science and how humans “know” but have found the greatest joy in the chunks of fiction that I woke up not knowing they existed within me… and there they were, on a website! I also write anonymously. I value the freedom it provides me, although I never use it like trolls do. Just let it flow!Be yourself! Have fun! Vrooooom! Kind regards, Arturo Phelonious Hinklefinch, Esq., Archduke of Hoooqares! (All of this just bubbled up for the first time and I feel no regret!)

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  4. I thought you’d been blogging for over a month. You are doing very well. When I started my blog, I really wasn’t sure of what to expect neither did I know what else to do apart from write; honestly but I kept writing because of the passion not even for the statistics or followers, after a while I realised I was where I never expected to be, and fulfilled. Thanks for sharing this post😘

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  5. I know a Nigerian lady who blog anonymously and she has so many followers. She didn’t get there in a day. You will get there too. I think it can be stressful trying to keep the husband from knowing but you can try. For your facebook page, you should put use the hash tags, it will help people around the world locate your page. You keep posting there faithfully. Well done!

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  6. Good for you for doing what you want, just as you want to do it.
    It has been approximately that same amount of time blogging for me. Learning the ins and outs of WordPress is a challenge indeed. I find that I do not follow everyone, basically some are only following you to promote their books and so on and you never hear from them…that’s ok with me….but I am not interested in everyone who has a blog either. I prefer like minded people who seem sincere. I am finding myself learning so much from a lot of the people I follow, they teach me ways of writing better and inspire me on certain things to write and just basically learning about other points of view and lifestyles and making friends here is what I was looking for by doing my own blog. I love it.
    I went public and was scared shitless to do it as I had been a very private person all along, guarding my private thoughts and life to the utmost. Now I figure well, it is done, public it is….still scary at times wondering if anyone will use my stuff, how and where.
    Well, I suppose to live and do what I fell like doing for myself I have to trust and just go and do it…

    Oh my, so sorry to have gone on and on but you see, your sharing has been very inspiring and I appreciate it totally that you have opened up and shared it with us all who have become connected through our blogs.

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  7. Welcome to blogging. There are so many things to comment on in what you wrote, but I’ll narrow it down to two, just because…(see: lazy)

    1. You now have to write a post about ‘cheating on your husband with your blog post’ and then ‘accidentally’ leak it to your husband. See his reaction. Drop enough clues to know whether he actually is paying attention. Be hurt that he doesn’t. End up in divorce court….Scratch that. Ignore Point 1.

    2. Do what feels right to you in blogging. Advice and ‘marketing’ are all well and good, but you have to be the blogger you are meant to be. I can’t imagine creating something I wasn’t proud of; who has that kind of time to waste? If you are enjoying yourself, stats and responses are a secondary consideration. (Unless you want to write professionally, then you’d better start drinking now and despair at your followers–or unfollowers–as the case may be.)

    Definitely ignore Point 2 as well. But welcome to blogging all the same.

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    • Haha thanks for reading and your advice! My husband doesn’t notice hair cuts or pay attention to much, yes, I think I’ll scrap point 1. Maybe that’s another post! I agree, I’ll stick to writing what I like and enjoy it. Thanks again!

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  8. Oh, my goodness! You just voiced in print much of what I am experiencing in writing a blog. Whenever something messes up in WordPress, it is hours of searching before I come close to fixing it. I also love the community of bloggers. It’s like a special group of friends, in a way.

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  9. Brilliant so good for you! I need to take a leaf out of your book and get back onto it. A wave anxiety took me down and its been hard getting back up :/ Glad to see you doing so well and enjoying it. Thanks for the inspiration 😉 xx

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  10. Welcome to blogging! I’ve been at it since 2009 and I love it! Here’s a little formatting tip for you. If you want to have a numbered list, but to have more than one paragraph under a number, hold down the Shift key when you hit Enter and it will start a new paragraph without a new number. Then when you want to go to the next number in the list, just hit enter. The Shift+Enter combo also works for keeping two lines of a poem together without the big space.

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  11. Really good summation! Blogging under a nom de plume has some drawbacks as you mentioned, but it’s so difficult to give up the liberating and uninhibited aspects. I’m weird in that I so rarely look at my stats, I couldn’t even guess what they are.

    I think the circles you speak of are part of your theme. Have you tried out different themes? You can test run before committing.

    I’ve connected to the most amazing people in the blog community on this blog I have now and my former one. I feel so blessed and grateful for the life-enhancing connections forged. Like all good relationships, cyber relationships thrive on repricrocity, so I do my utmost to reciprocate comments, etc. Congrats on your blogging success and one month blogversary. Best wishes, MW ❤️

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  12. Such an inspiring post to read through. There wasn’t a single point where I couldn’t agree less with you. Even I struggled building my blog page – lets admit..it’s too complex! Took up around a week (maybe more) to get a hang of it, still finding hard to get followers and people actually appreciating your work – I know the feels when you do get the right acknowledgement from people who actually take the time to read through your posts. On that note, Good luck to you from a twin blogger ! 🙂 😀

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  13. Ooh, what a wave of nostalgia! I felt the same way when I first started mine. I guess until now I’m still learning the technicalities and etiquettes of blogging. What I do love about blogging we get to learn from each other while improving our craft. PLUS, it feels good to belong in a community of artists and writers too. ❤️

    Congratulations on your first month. 🎉🎉🎉

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  14. Congratulations! While I haven’t been blogging for a month, so many of the details from your post remind me of my choices and experiences blogging on WordPress. Aside from the stats and your writing space, I felt like I was reading a page from my own blogging diary. 🙂 I love the view from your writing space. How inspiring!

    I’ve enjoyed reading your writing – keep up the efforts. They’re worth it!

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  15. you have a lovely blog – beautifully set out. My only advice might be try to ignore the stats & likes etc if you want to stay true to yourself (forgive that hackneyed phrase but it summarises well). Just write for your own pleasure – it’s easy to fall into the trap of writing for your audience or on topics that get bumped by stats.
    p.s. I saw your blog title initially as ‘a smile in my shoes’ – perhaps because of your lovely avatar

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    • Thank you. Sounds like good advice as this is my little creative outlet and I’m not doing it to make money or win a popularity contest. Perhaps it’s the people pleaser in me that wants to be ‘liked’. I like ‘smile in my shoes’ and thank you 🙂

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  16. I’ve been blogging for about a month now. I’m averaging about two posts a day (weekends are a toss up). I get a lot of what you are saying here. Figuring out all the little intricacies of how to set up your page and all takes a little getting used to. Most people around me in life have no idea I write at all. It’s really not like me as far as other people know me. I find it interesting how many other people have this as a secret part of themselves that they don’t let other people in on. It makes me feel a little better about me.

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    • I love being two people – with the same personality but showing different parts of myself. You’ll be one of the few who understand. I’ve still told no one. It is taking up a lot of my time and it’s tricky keeping it under wraps, but I’m happy to be Beth sometimes. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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  17. I love the honesty of this post. I like to think I have about average technical expertise but setting up my blog has given me a new-found empathy for when my grandmother asks for help with her computer! If nothing else, it’s comforting to know that I’m not the only one who can’t work out how to get rid of big circles around things that I don’t want. Thank you!

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  18. We started blogging at about the same time, in August. You’ve got three times as many followers as me, so I’m a little jealous, but you deserve it as your site and your posts are great, you are very transparent, and I’m sure more people can relate to your content. Anyway. I decided to remain anonymous, too, and I wouldn’t have written a single line if I hadn’t. Although, I do share some posts with my wife and kids, so they know I have a blog, but they aren’t really that interested. 🙂

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    • Thanks. I think it’s a fluke that I’ve got followers. I’ve had a few re-blogs so that helped. It’s refreshing not having people knowing have blog, as I’m sure you’ll agree. My husband knows I sometimes write, but he thinks it’s a forum. He’s not very interested anyway. Thanks again for your kind comments 🙂

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      • How do I check? I certainly have noticed sometimes that I’ll get some likes before something seems to be viewed. It’s a either a delay or the people are just being nice haha! is there a way to check on a few apart from just the current one?

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      • go to Blog Posts and scroll down your list of published posts. the number next to the “eye” icon is the “likes” for that post; the number next to the “eye” icon is your “views” for that post.

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      • Yes it has! I’ve checked through them all and it’s happened 5 or 6 times where more people have liked than actually viewed. 😦 No offence, but I’d rather they just didn’t bother really. The only time I think it could be probably if they could see a full haiku in the viewer – but don’t think any of those were.

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      • Hey. Still struggling….still dont know what hmtl, Url, means , where to put tags ….😥alas I managed to have 1 and I repeat I follower ..felt chuffed and feeling it …
        I see you are doing so well…well done..merry Christmas and bright 2017

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      • I think a big selling point to your blog is your personality and your location. Many people would love to see your great photos and have tips on visiting London. I did a post a few days ago – the Memory Lane one. It would be fab for you to do something for London areas. You should do a Blogging Uni Course on WordPress to find out about the formatting and stuff. If you manage to go into design bly clicking on that pop on the bottom right of your screen, you can play with the widgets – those are the things that give you a right hand menu on your page. Good luck 🙂

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    • Thanks for reading. Four months in now and I still like to check my stats. Still, it’s better than the superficial Facebook ‘likes’. I like your blog and am following. Congratulations on your marriage and new family and good luck with the blog. I found that doing the ‘daily prompt’ a good way to get to know other bloggers.

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